Friday, June 20, 2014

My "It's Not Fair" Face

     There are days--and I have no doubt that everyone has them--that I wish I could be anyone but me.  When I was young, there was this book called "It's Not Fair!" and it was all these pictures of kids comparing their lives to other people's and telling why what they had wasn't fair.  I really can't do the kids' faces justice because the drawings were hilarious, but they would always have a scowl and their lips would be sticking out very far, like a duck beak.  My siblings used to tease me that I looked like them, and now that we are older, we all laugh about it.  I've looked all over the Internet, but I can't find it anywhere, and I certainly can't remember who the illustrator was, so onto my point.
     I don't know if just women do this, but I find myself comparing myself to other people all the time.  "Oh, I wish I had Caradon's gorgeous, thick hair instead of my thin, limp hair."  Then there is, "I wish my teeth were as white as Samantha's," or "I wish I was as thin as that girl," or "I wish I could wear that outfit."  It's sad that I find myself comparing my weaknesses against everyone else's strengths.  But, doing this got me thinking...are there people out there wishing they could be like me?  Is there someone out there wishing that they had kind, well-behaved kids?  Is there someone out there wishing they had a really hot husband who also cooked, scraped the dry skin off their feet, and thought his wife was beautiful?  I'm sure there is, and sometimes I wish that person would say something to me.  It would be nice every once in a while to hear something good from someone who isn't required to think you are amazing.
     Because I feel that way, I always try to do the same for other people.  Every time I see someone with beautiful hair, or really great style, or a fabulous handle-bar moustache...I tell them!  It certainly never hurts, and they usually respond with a smile and a "thank you!"  Hopefully, what goes around will come around and more people will be willing to pay compliments instead of moping with their "It's Not Fair" face, just wishing they were somebody else.  I'm going to work on that--try to see my strengths more often and when I look in the mirror, no more pouting.  I'll just have to see the good things and maybe someday I'll believe them.


Unknown said...

I don't know if I qualify as one of those people who you think has to like you or pay you those compliments, but I can think of many reasons I think, "it's not fair" toward you. The well behaved children and hot husband are a given, but the list goes on.

Linds, you have a gift that is so rare - unconditional love. I see how you are with your children and your family and there isn't a thing any of them could do that would ever make you feel less than the greatest amount of love. I could stop there because I don't know that there is any better trait any human could have, but I'll go on.
I have also been in situations with you where I have said something negative about someone and you put yourself in their situation and say something positive. Not only does that take bravery, but kindness and perspective. It's also a good reminder for me.

Even though you wish you had Caradon's thick hair, your hair has something that I have always wished for. You can get out of the shower and not have to blow dry and straighten your hair. Not fair! Your hair just styles itself…what I would give.

There are plenty of people, including strangers, who think these things and others when they look at you. You don't need to hear that from me or anyone else. Keep kicking ass because you've got a lot of good stuff going on. Love you.

The Jenkins Family said...

I wish I knew who this unknown person was!! Whoever you are, you are awesome!!

CaradonandtheBoys! said...

Thanks for the compliment. I love you. And I love Unknown for being so kind...