I have been so worried about Dallin over the years. He finds it difficult to make friends--much more difficult than it is for his sisters. He has some issues with social protocol which makes it frustrating for some kids to be his friend. I worry constantly, because kids need friends. There is only so much validation that can come from a mom or a dad. The rest needs to come from friends, and in the past, Dallin hasn't had very many. He had one friend in Utah. He has one friend here. That's it. He is friendly with kids in his classroom and all that, but they don't exactly want to play with him on recess, although he certainly tries hard to get them to. Maybe a little too hard which kids are usually able to see right away. They can see that desperation, you know?
Anyway, we moved into our new ward back in February and I would drop Dallin off at Scouts and he seemed to get along with most of the boys. But, he hadn't made any friends that he felt he'd want to call and have come over. I was starting to worry again. But, then yesterday morning, there was an invitation on the front porch for Dallin to come to a birthday party. He was SO ecstatic! He hasn't been invited to a birthday party (except for once by his best friend here in Texas which unfortunately was on the same day as his cousin's birthday party and at the same time, oddly enough) in YEARS. I'm not exaggerating about that at all. I wish I was.
The invitation is for a set of twins in our ward. They are actually turning 9, so they are a year younger than Dallin, but that works well for him because he tends to get along best with kids who are either younger than him, or who also have autistic spectrum issues and are his own age or older. I guess that's part of the territory I am having to learn how to deal with, but when this invite came, I was thrilled, especially at his reaction when he got the invitation. These boys are great. Not only has he got one friend now, but two. I really hope they will continue to be his friend as they all get older. What's funny is that one of the boys is also named Dallin. Coincidence? Maybe. Either way, I sure am glad he's making friends.
Okay, three things. These are going to be quick because I have to take my boy to his birthday party! I like my hair, I like my eyes, and I LOVE my relationships with my siblings. Even now as adults, we are better friends than we ever were as kids. I love that.